Couples

My specialization is working with couples who are motivated to make lasting changes in the way they team up to handle and embrace life. I see it as my job to listen fully and understand what’s going on. But then to go beyond empathy to foster new skills that empower relational growth. There is so much that can be offered to help make things better at home but we are typically never taught these skills as part of our education. In my office I strive to have couples actually experience each other from this more evolved, more mature stance and “take it home with them” as an improved way to relate and feel loving and alive. My work with couples includes many areas of focus…from redefining monogamy to negotiating differences around spirituality…from getting on the same page with parenting to finding peace from chronic fights. I see all varieties of couples including the full spectrum of genders, races, religions, nationalities and relationship statuses. I am fully open, non-sectarian, and non-judgmental.  I promise!

I also work extensively with couples who are experiencing the pain and shame of infidelity. Though an incredibly difficult life event for both partners, this loss is something that a couple can often get through.  Over the years I have honed my way of helping these clients. It’s important for us to find out the meanings behind the affair and use them to uncover places of susceptibility within the relationship. Trust must be intentionally reestablished and boundaries clearly  outlined. We must plumb some key relational depths around anger, fear, jealousy, sexuality, forgiveness…so much to do, yet so very much hope for motivated, dedicated partnerships. There is a tremendous amount of intimacy that can be created through true vulnerability, empathy and forgiveness.

It has been my honor to work with couples for the past 25 years and witness their determination and growth. My goal is to have you both ride a white stallion out of my office and live happily ever after…but I will settle for something close!